Cheating.

Sandgrounder · #41 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 10:50

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Originally Posted by looking for yoga bones

If person A is so disinterested why did they start to play? Cheating in a game is just no fun, you might as well not play then.

Peer pressure. "Aw, the game needs 6. You'll have to play or we can't."

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And yes they still cheated, and could of avoided doing so by holding to what they wanted to do.

Good. Maybe Person A won't be pestered quite so intensively to play crashingly dull board games in future...

Tilia · #42 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:02

I think that very often this the root of the problem. Two people meet, they fall in love and inevitably they adapt their behaviours and values to fit to what they think other person wants to hear/see to become more likable. "To be able to play" if you like. Once the honeymoon is over, you realize that actually that doesn't correspond to your personal values at all and start to get bitter on the other person for imposing his value on you.

Typical issues are "sex for lust, not love" and "watching p0rn" and most often (but of course not always) it is the man that sees it as no big deal and who has originally adapted to fit his wifes wishes/values.

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Peer pressure. "Aw, the game needs 6. You'll have to play or we can't."

Good. Maybe Person A won't be pestered quite so intensively to play crashingly dull board games in future...

Dä Götti Max · #43 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:04

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Originally Posted by Tilia

I think that very often this the root of the problem. Two people meet, they fall in love and inevitably they adapt their behaviours and values to fit to what they think other person wants to hear/see to become more likable. "To be able to play" if you like. Once the honeymoon is over, you realize that actually that doesn't correspond to your personal values at all and start to get bitter on the other person for imposing his value on you.

Typical issues are "sex for lust, not love" and "watching p0rn" and most often (but of course not always) it is the man that sees it as no big deal and who has originally adapted to fit his wifes wishes/values.

Watching pR0n is cheating?

peachy · #44 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:09

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Watching pR0n is cheating?

I guess you are cheating on the laptop if you watch it on the tele

Tilia · #45 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:09

You'd be surprised at how many women (mainly) thinks that is the case, yes.

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Watching pR0n is cheating?

looking for yoga bones · #46 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:30

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Originally Posted by Tilia

I think that very often this the root of the problem. Two people meet, they fall in love and inevitably they adapt their behaviours and values to fit to what they think other person wants to hear/see to become more likable. "To be able to play" if you like. Once the honeymoon is over, you realize that actually that doesn't correspond to your personal values at all and start to get bitter on the other person for imposing his value on you.

Typical issues are "sex for lust, not love" and "watching p0rn" and most often (but of course not always) it is the man that sees it as no big deal and who has originally adapted to fit his wifes wishes/values.

I disagree, I think more often women try to adapt to men.

Sada · #47 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:37

oh not me, not ever and that's exactly where I get into trouble, I am not submissive

and I bloody hell don't wanna be !!!

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I disagree, I think more often women try to adapt to men.

BigD · #48 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:38

Generally received wisdom is that a woman tries to change her man as soon as security of relationship allows.

BigD

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I disagree, I think more often women try to adapt to men.

looking for yoga bones · #49 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:52

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Generally received wisdom is that a woman tries to change her man as soon as security of relationship allows.

BigD

My point exactly first the women builds security makes the man things she likes the things he likes, then once is secured. Shows him that is not or she is and expects him to become the person she wanted.

looking for yoga bones · #50 (**permalink**) 11-02-2009, 11:53

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Originally Posted by Sada

oh not me, not ever and that's exactly where I get into trouble, I am not submissive

and I bloody hell don't wanna be !!!

Being submissive, and being who you are and maintaining your values, are two different things.