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Originally Posted by Dä Götti Max 
There are great lessons to be learned from getting yourself involved in a potential affair.
The first - as I see it - is it challenges you to question whether you dream of gold but wake with silver.
Second - as I see it - if you were not in a relationship but the other person was, would you drop everything for them? Now, try it vice-versa: would you lose what you have?
I think the second point is what hinders us; we just can't afford to lose all what we've built-up. We're all weak and I really don't trust anyone who says otherwise. Perfect relationship? Right.  |
I don't think it's true that we can't afford to lose all we have built up, or at least I don't feel that way. It's quite easy to assess what it really means to leave somebody and ultimately you know that it wouldn't be the end of the world, life goes on.
You do have to make your bed and lie in it though, maybe you are the sort of person that can deal with multiple relationships on the go at the same time all through your life but the majority of other people aren't like that and it will cause problems for you.
The grass is always a cup size bigger on the other side and you just have to work out your game plan. If you choose to live in deceit, and get away with it, it is you that knows about the infidelity and you that has to face the demons, it's yourself that you are making life difficult for. If you don't want to go this route then you need to be realistic and focus on building a strong relationship.